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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #30 on: June 02, 2013, 04:02:35 PM »

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When the same people who go into full outrage mode over stories like this, start reacting the same when they see Hollywood make fun of  Christians, then I'll believe they have some credibility. Until then, outrage like this is nothing more than a hypocritical stance born out of the personal desire to feel good about one's self, or just a want to be liked.

If you believe there is a right not be offended, the you need to apply it all things deemed offensive to all people with equal fervor.

I thank you for assuming I'm not Christian, or that gay people aren't Christian.  It's that type of remark that is completely not open to dialogue which is the problem with this country, and also why threads like this get sidetracked.  There's no reason to be off-topic.  Religion wasn't mentioned once in this thread prior to you.

Ummm I never called out anybodies faith. I just made a point about the double standard in this country. I'm also not turning this into religious debate as another said.

I'll use another example of the double standard.  Where was the outrage when Rex Ryan was being made fun of for his foot fetish? Nobody defended him or demanded apologies.

The overall point I'm making is there seems to be selective outrage and apology demands.

If people are going to seize the moral high ground, they should be.prepared to be challenged.

No, what you did was completely hijack a thread, because you want to complain about something.  Let's look at this this thread:

OP: Roy Hibbert apologized for saying something offensive.

Some posters: Why was this offensive?

Other posters: It was offensive because X.

You: I don't care if people are offended, because I'm offended about this other thing that Hollywood does, and why aren't you complaining about that too on this NBA message board, in the "Around the NBA" forum?

That's thread hijacking.  Go start another thread and complain about it, and people who are interested in that can talk about it there.


Actually, I'm not offended by a lot of things.  You either don't have an answer, or you missed the point entirely.







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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #31 on: June 02, 2013, 04:04:27 PM »

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If you want to consider Roy Hibbert to be the victim of ESPN, that's fine.  But below is a video that explains Hibbert's phrase very well.  Just watch it.  I can't tell you how to react to it, and won't try to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=YJnlPP7jm5s

OK, here's what I think of this. In my opinion, the term "no homo" conveys the same meaning as say, "Not to be socialist."

I think it's perfectly fine for someone to say "Not to be socialist, but I think we should have free health care!" so it's okay to say "Not to be homosexual, but I think he was stretching me out!" or something.

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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #32 on: June 02, 2013, 04:08:04 PM »

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Hibbert should know better - the preferred term is "that's what she said".

Exactly. It was a bad joke, and it could have been even worse if they had talked about penetration.




Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #33 on: June 02, 2013, 04:12:16 PM »

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When the same people who go into full outrage mode over stories like this, start reacting the same when they see Hollywood make fun of  Christians, then I'll believe they have some credibility. Until then, outrage like this is nothing more than a hypocritical stance born out of the personal desire to feel good about one's self, or just a want to be liked.

If you believe there is a right not be offended, the you need to apply it all things deemed offensive to all people with equal fervor.

I thank you for assuming I'm not Christian, or that gay people aren't Christian.  It's that type of remark that is completely not open to dialogue which is the problem with this country, and also why threads like this get sidetracked.  There's no reason to be off-topic.  Religion wasn't mentioned once in this thread prior to you.

Ummm I never called out anybodies faith. I just made a point about the double standard in this country. I'm also not turning this into religious debate as another said.

I'll use another example of the double standard.  Where was the outrage when Rex Ryan was being made fun of for his foot fetish? Nobody defended him or demanded apologies.

The overall point I'm making is there seems to be selective outrage and apology demands.

If people are going to seize the moral high ground, they should be.prepared to be challenged.

The Rex Ryan comparison is terrible:

A. There were tons of people who said "no big deal" or even said "hey, good for them to have that level of attraction and chemistry."

And, much more importantly,
B. The discussion around Ryan generally consisted of what would variably be described as teasing, curiosity, etc., while gay people fall under public criticism its generally as worse than beasts, pedophiles, going to hell, subhuman, inhuman, responsible for natural disasters, etc. Its a little different, and you should know that.


Secondly, Christians as a peoplenare just not victims in this country, hence the "double standard." Like it or not, until things are equal, the dominant class is "allowed" to be critiqued. And, generally, the white christian male agenda or perspective is still the default one. It is changing, slowly, but people who see white/christian/male general victimization are NOT seeing subjugation, but are rather witnessing the fall from assumed/implicit/default dominance or privilege back toward (but definitley not yet reached) equal say. And its painful-no one likes to give up stuff to which they are accustomed- but going from super dominant to kind of dominant still is not victimhood.

So because they are not victims, it's ok to make demeaning statements about them? Thanks for proving my point. And how are gays being subjugated exactly in this country? Are they not allowed to vote, work, peacefully assemble, have sex the way they want? Are people allowed o beat and murder them without fear of punishment?

Like I said, there is no credibility in an argument that says one group can be made fun of and one can't be.

As far as Rex goes, do you think jay leno would still be employed if he made the same joked about homosexual activities as he did with Ryan's fetish? I think you know the answer to that, which only further proves my point about the existence of a double standard.



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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #34 on: June 02, 2013, 04:13:30 PM »

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If you want to consider Roy Hibbert to be the victim of ESPN, that's fine.  But below is a video that explains Hibbert's phrase very well.  Just watch it.  I can't tell you how to react to it, and won't try to.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=YJnlPP7jm5s

OK, here's what I think of this. In my opinion, the term "no homo" conveys the same meaning as say, "Not to be socialist."

I think it's perfectly fine for someone to say "Not to be socialist, but I think we should have free health care!" so it's okay to say "Not to be homosexual, but I think he was stretching me out!" or something.

I don't really know.

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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #35 on: June 02, 2013, 04:15:30 PM »

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Let's not turn Hibbert's comment into a religious subject and get this thread locked. He shouldn't have said it in tha setting he was in but I don't think he said it with tha intent to put down or disrespect anybody that lives an alternate lifestyle. It's not that big of a deal. He rightfully apologized. Let's move on.

I agree with you on everything except that it isn't a big deal.  Saying it isn't a "big deal" has the effect, whether intentional or not, of telling people who are offended that they shouldn't be.  There are reasons that people care about this, and minimizing them serves no purpose.  Why should Hibbert have to apologize if it isn't a big deal?

Because there's a guy by tha name of Jason Collins that plays tha same sport as Hibbert. I'm sure First Take will debate this on Monday but Hibbert was in tha public eye last night and he knew that. And when you have tha media being tha media (ESPN), they will paint him to be a villain and make it seem like he attacked or poked at tha gay community. It isn't a big deal to me because I don't believe he intended to offend anyone. He didn't "have" to apologize but he did.

You've excluded yourself (more than once in a previous post) from living an alternate lifestyle but yet you're defending that community as if you are a part of it. I'm not attacking you or anything but you're looking deeper into this way more than you should. We can't control people's feelings or reactions to certain things.

As a straight ally, I consider myself sort of part of that community, but certainly not completely.  (Although I reject the notion that being gay is an "alternate lifestyle."  It's a lifestyle.)  The reason I emphasize I'm not gay in these discussions is because sometimes perspective on who the speaker is is important.  "I'm not gay, but I find "no homo" offensive" doesn't seem to me to be much different than saying "I'm not black, but I find (insert derogatory phrase for black people) offensive".  Thankfully enough non-black people find these phrases offensive that this disclaimer isn't as needed any more, but if the internet had been invented 50 years ago and we were having this discussion about someone making use of a derogatory racial stereotype, and some people questioning why it's a big deal, I'd say "I'm white, but it's offensive."

I look forward to the day, hopefully not too far in the future, where I don't have to say "I'm straight", when talking about these issues, because it won't matter whether I am or not, but right now it still does, so I do.

Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #36 on: June 02, 2013, 04:24:53 PM »

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Why is this such a big deal?  He said something he though was wrong, so he apologized for it.   End of story. 
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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #37 on: June 02, 2013, 04:27:30 PM »

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Not sure that I consider "no homo" to be a gay slur to be honest.  It's not smart to say during a press conference but its not really a slur.
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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #38 on: June 02, 2013, 04:31:27 PM »

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Why is this such a big deal?  He said something he though was wrong, so he apologized for it.   End of story. 

It really isn't. This thread is turning into tha TWill thread from tha other day.
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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #39 on: June 02, 2013, 04:32:11 PM »

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Quote from: angryguy77 link=topic=65267.msg1480025#msg1480025 date=

So because they are not victims, it's ok to make demeaning statements about them? Thanks for proving my point. And how are gays being subjugated exactly in this country? Are they not allowed to vote, work, peacefully assemble, have sex the way they want? Are people allowed o beat and murder them without fear of punishment?



As far as Rex goes, do you think jay leno would still be employed if he made the same joked about homosexual activities as he did with Ryan's fetish? I think you know the answer to that, which only further proves my point about the existence of a double standard.

A: This idea you have that quality humor somehow never touches on the subject of homosexuality is ridiculous and patently false. But regardless,  one of the great abilities of humor is that it can be a way for the subjugated to feel empowered towards the advantaged.

B: Wasn't Wes Welker sat for an opening drive for going off on Ryan's foot fetish?

Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #40 on: June 02, 2013, 04:33:31 PM »

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Not sure that I consider "no homo" to be a gay slur to be honest.  It's not smart to say during a press conference but its not really a slur.

You've never heard of gay people being called "homos"?  It's a pretty old slur.  I agree it's a pretty tame instance, and I'm not sure how much we'd've even heard about it if Hibbert hadn't gone out of his way to apologize, but since he seems to feel bad about it good on him for taking the initiative.

Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #41 on: June 02, 2013, 04:35:39 PM »

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When the same people who go into full outrage mode over stories like this, start reacting the same when they see Hollywood make fun of  Christians, then I'll believe they have some credibility. Until then, outrage like this is nothing more than a hypocritical stance born out of the personal desire to feel good about one's self, or just a want to be liked.

If you believe there is a right not be offended, the you need to apply it all things deemed offensive to all people with equal fervor.

I thank you for assuming I'm not Christian, or that gay people aren't Christian.  It's that type of remark that is completely not open to dialogue which is the problem with this country, and also why threads like this get sidetracked.  There's no reason to be off-topic.  Religion wasn't mentioned once in this thread prior to you.

Ummm I never called out anybodies faith. I just made a point about the double standard in this country. I'm also not turning this into religious debate as another said.

I'll use another example of the double standard.  Where was the outrage when Rex Ryan was being made fun of for his foot fetish? Nobody defended him or demanded apologies.

The overall point I'm making is there seems to be selective outrage and apology demands.

If people are going to seize the moral high ground, they should be.prepared to be challenged.

The Rex Ryan comparison is terrible:

A. There were tons of people who said "no big deal" or even said "hey, good for them to have that level of attraction and chemistry."

And, much more importantly,
B. The discussion around Ryan generally consisted of what would variably be described as teasing, curiosity, etc., while gay people fall under public criticism its generally as worse than beasts, pedophiles, going to hell, subhuman, inhuman, responsible for natural disasters, etc. Its a little different, and you should know that.


Secondly, Christians as a peoplenare just not victims in this country, hence the "double standard." Like it or not, until things are equal, the dominant class is "allowed" to be critiqued. And, generally, the white christian male agenda or perspective is still the default one. It is changing, slowly, but people who see white/christian/male general victimization are NOT seeing subjugation, but are rather witnessing the fall from assumed/implicit/default dominance or privilege back toward (but definitley not yet reached) equal say. And its painful-no one likes to give up stuff to which they are accustomed- but going from super dominant to kind of dominant still is not victimhood.

So because they are not victims, it's ok to make demeaning statements about them? Thanks for proving my point. And how are gays being subjugated exactly in this country? Are they not allowed to vote, work, peacefully assemble, have sex the way they want? Are people allowed o beat and murder them without fear of punishment?

Like I said, there is no credibility in an argument that says one group acne be made fun of and one can't be.

As far as Rex goes, do you think jay leno would still be employed if he made the same joked about homosexual activities as he did with Ryan's fetish? I think you know the answer to that, which only further proves my point about the existence of a double standard.

Please show me, in a news report from a major media source, the last time someone was physically assaulted for being Christian in this country.  Or murdered.  It happened just weeks ago to a gay couple in the village in NYC, one of the more "gay-friendly" places out there, for being gay. 

I grew up Christian my whole life, in a public school no less, and I never once had to hear anyone insult me for my faith.  Wasn't something I even had to worry about.  The gay kids in school?  Hardly.  And even if they weren't insulted directly, they had to hear homophobes like me make anti-gay jokes all the time, not very different from the one Hibbert made.  Was I trying to be funny?  Sure.  But was it just a form of passing down the bullying that I was receiving from others (for reasons never identified -- but probably because I was there and unable to physically defend myself) to people who were even more marginalized than myself?  Absolutely.  And Christians aren't marginalized.  There are churches everywhere, and you can go into them without worrying what people think of you.  You can pray before your meal at a restaurant and not worry what people think.  You can wear a cross necklace, or some other expression of your faith.  But be two men holding hands walking down a street?  You can try not to worry, and depending where you are, maybe you'll worry less, but you'll worry.  Mention that you volunteer at your church to one of your coworkers?  Can't be fired for that.  Mention that your thinking of getting married to your same-sex partner to your coworker?  In many states, you can get fired for that.  Gay people are still marginalized, orders of magnitude more so, than Christians.  (And don't even get me started on gay Christians, or gay black Christians.)  Do I like Book of Mornon?  No, I thought it was offensive, and when my friends asked if I wanted to go, I told them no, and I told them why not.  (And I'm not Mormon.) 

But this thread isn't about how Christians are or are not offended, persectuted, or whatever.  It's about how Roy Hibbert said a homophobic remark, and about how some people don't find that as homophobic or wrong.  For once, Christianity has nothing to do with this thread, so please stop bringing it up.

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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #42 on: June 02, 2013, 04:44:04 PM »

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Why is this such a big deal?  He said something he though was wrong, so he apologized for it.   End of story.

It's not the end of the story though; just read what saltlover said. TP to him.
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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #43 on: June 02, 2013, 04:49:36 PM »

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Not sure that I consider "no homo" to be a gay slur to be honest.  It's not smart to say during a press conference but its not really a slur.

You've never heard of gay people being called "homos"?  It's a pretty old slur.  I agree it's a pretty tame instance, and I'm not sure how much we'd've even heard about it if Hibbert hadn't gone out of his way to apologize, but since he seems to feel bad about it good on him for taking the initiative.

Of course I've heard gay people be called homo's.  If Roy had called the media homo's instead of what he did call them that would be a gay slur.  Instead she just used a slang phrase which as somebody else said is about as harmful as, "that's what she said,"
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Re: Roy Hibbert apologizes for post-game gay slur
« Reply #44 on: June 02, 2013, 04:53:57 PM »

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The point is HE thought it was the wrong thing to say, so HE apologized for it.   It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks.
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