Wife's Christmas Party or C's Game?

[FatKidsDad]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

[nickagneta]

You just earned a year's worth of TP's from me. Awesome, magnanimous, unselfish, thoughtful and very giving gesture on your part. When I see your name, you're getting TP's

[Amonkey]

These are some good words of wisdoms.  I have been doing some small time negotiations about her wanting me to see Harry Potter and Twilight movies with her and watching Celtics games.  Tell you the truth, I really don't care about those movies, I can just completely zone out for two hours, but I have been working like it's a drag for me and cash those chips later.

[Kwhit10]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

Wow that is a very generous and gracious offer! TP to you! 

[Eja117]

And take her to that new vampire movie. You might as well go all the way

[MattG12]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

You may be the most thoughful person on CelticsBlog and I'm shocked I've never seen 1 post from you until now and I'm glad I did, TP!

[thirstyboots18]

Despite my attempt at humor about a guilt trip in my last post, guilt trips are never a good idea.  If you go to the party, have a good time and never utter a word about your sacrifice.  I was never a party animal, but always tried to make the "in honor of" and "family" (retirement, anniversary, birthday, graduation, etc.) parties as a couple, but didn't expect marital obligations to extend to "business occasion" parties. When we could both make the same parties that was just gravy. But that is just me.  Depending on your age and occupation I can see how that could make a difference.

And....tp's to FatKidsDad

[Cman]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

I read this and thought to myself: "I am not worthy"

[fairweatherfan]

From a female perspective... I'd be embarrassed if my spouse was the only one who didn't show up. You need to go to the party.

See what I mean. The on the job environment that your wife would have to go through would be not so great and because of that, blake, you would never live it down.

Women love gossip, especially at the workplace.

OOhhhhh, the new doctor's husband blew off the Christmas party!! I wonder if there's marital problems? Wow he must be a real __________(fill in the blank with a bad and probably very inaccurate description of yourself).

The looks and whispers start. Your wife feels them and gets aggravated and guess who is going to catch the flack?

Not so much this in reality as this in your wife's perception, which is unfortunately much more important for (some (almost all)) women.  I'm dealing with a similar problem with my gf and her friend's overseas wedding this summer on my birthday - the anxiety that others might be judging her on my absence is by far her biggest sticking point.  She'll be conscious of your absence the whole party and it'll probably make her feel uncomfortable and awkward, which will just set off an avalanche of negative emotion that will cause you more problems than any benefit you'll get from the game.  Unfortunately you'll probably have to suck it up and go to the party.

[Edgar]

And take her to that new vampire movie. You might as well go all the way

good one.

[KCattheStripe]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

Very classy.

[blake]

Wow!  I had all but made up my mind to go to the game.  The comments made on here have changed my mind.  I thought for sure that you guys would tell me to go to the game.  I'm going to trust my elders of the tribe on this one.  I'll put on a happy face, but I am going to be crying on the inside all night on Friday. I would normally say that "you have no idea how hard this is", but you guys are the probably the only ones who do understand.

FatKidsDad, that was an amazing offer but I can't take you up on it.  That was the single most impressive post I've ever seen here on the boards.  I would love to take you up on it, but it is just too cost prohibitive (optometry school loans).  TPs forever to you sir.

other details:  "upscale bowling" is a relative term.  It, like someone else mentioned earlier is an adult place.  Not your normal bowling alley.  There are cocktail waitresses, good booze, dj, etc.

on to the negotiations:  Things that will be "demanded" in return:

1- Good seats at the Celts Mavs game in March (Thank the Lord it is on a Saturday),
2- If the same thing happens next year, we both go to the C's game.

Any other ideas to throw into the negotiations?

Thank you guys again.  I'm assuming that I'm making the mature decision.  

[Edgar]

Listen to the wisdom on this board.  

You are a young man with a young marriage.  Put the priority where it belongs and support your wife.  If you made the right choice and married the right woman, she will always remember and appreciate that you put her first, and that will come back to you over the years.

She offered to take you to a Mavs game, so obviously she recognizes that you are giving something up, and she wants to make it up to you.  Lame seats or not, take her up on it.  You'll see a better team, imo, and you'll have a nice getaway with her.

Better yet, here's a proposition for you.  Christmas is coming.  Give her a gift from you to both of you.  Get two airline tickets and a couple of nights in a hotel for a weekend winter getaway to Boston.  It will be a special adventure, and if you do it, I'll GIVE YOU two tickets to a game at the Garden.

If you want to go that way, shoot me a PM and I'll send back a couple of dates to chose from.

We all love the C's here, but let's keep first things first.

I read this and thought to myself: "I am not worthy"

and with this post  i will nominate FKD post as post of the year.

[Edgar]

Wow!  I had all but made up my mind to go to the game.  The comments made on here have changed my mind.  I thought for sure that you guys would tell me to go to the game.  I'm going to trust my elders of the tribe on this one.  I'll put on a happy face, but I am going to be crying on the inside all night on Friday. I would normally say that "you have no idea how hard this is", but you guys are the probably the only ones who do understand.

FatKidsDad, that was an amazing offer but I can't take you up on it.  That was the single most impressive post I've ever seen here on the boards.  I would love to take you up on it, but it is just too cost prohibitive (optometry school loans).  TPs forever to you sir.

other details:  "upscale bowling" is a relative term.  It, like someone else mentioned earlier is an adult place.  Not your normal bowling alley.  There are cocktail waitresses, good booze, dj, etc.

on to the negotiations:  Things that will be "demanded" in return:

1- Good seats at the Celts Mavs game in March (Thank the Lord it is on a Saturday),
2- If the same thing happens next year, we both go to the C's game.

Any other ideas to throw into the negotiations?

Thank you guys again.  I'm assuming that I'm making the mature decision.  

its ok this way...dont push it

[Fafnir]

Wow!  I had all but made up my mind to go to the game.  The comments made on here have changed my mind.  I thought for sure that you guys would tell me to go to the game.  I'm going to trust my elders of the tribe on this one.  I'll put on a happy face, but I am going to be crying on the inside all night on Friday. I would normally say that "you have no idea how hard this is", but you guys are the probably the only ones who do understand.

FatKidsDad, that was an amazing offer but I can't take you up on it.  That was the single most impressive post I've ever seen here on the boards.  I would love to take you up on it, but it is just too cost prohibitive (optometry school loans).  TPs forever to you sir.

other details:  "upscale bowling" is a relative term.  It, like someone else mentioned earlier is an adult place.  Not your normal bowling alley.  There are cocktail waitresses, good booze, dj, etc.

on to the negotiations:  Things that will be "demanded" in return:

1- Good seats at the Celts Mavs game in March Thank the Lord it is on a Saturday),
2- If the same thing happens next year, we both go to the C's game.

Any other ideas to throw into the negotiations?

Thank you guys again.  I'm assuming that I'm making the mature decision.  

Nope you've got it right, just make sure that she acknowledges you're giving up something important to you for her. Beyond that settle on whatever satisfies you.

Personally I'd go to the game still.