My girl is very upset with me and I need advice.

[Steve Weinman]

I want to thank the many on here that gave me such good advice.

I took a lot from different posters who have had varying experiences and unique ways of handling their own situation. I was able to hand pick through and customize what matches up best with my situation.

Everyone is different with some people being very immature on one hand but “years ahead” when dealing with a different situation. I think that may apply here. I have a wonderful person in my life. Our strengths as a couple far outweigh are weaknesses. I happened to air the biggest controversy in our relationship public on Celticslog because I was nervous. After meeting some of the best and brightest on these pages, this is where I turned for feedback and input like I have so many times before for varies other topics (although usually pertaining to the Celtics/basketball).

I showed an ugly couple pixels of a big beautiful picture…

Yesterday was filled with high emotion and it was the aftermath of the first experience I’ve had really disappointing and hurting the person I plan on spending the rest of my life with. She reacted on pure “This is the end of the world emotion” and in my head I reacted the same way.

I’m a simple person. I work, go to school, exercise and I come home eat dinner and spend time with Ashley. Occasionally I’ll go fishing or mess around with music applications on my computer. I threw her a curveball inside and it hit her on the face. She got upset, had something to say, threatened charge but ultimately took her base.

I went home last night and to my surprise she was there. I comforted and reminded her “I have everything I need physically and emotionally right here.” She began to ease up. Soon the emotion starting to whittle to the point we could actually have a conversation. I summarized her fear “I understand why you are upset, your interpretation was by giving her attention that would lead to conversation as if I was looking for something from her. That’s not the case.” fortunately my track record backed that up. 

Her ring is still on her finger and later on that night she was on the phone with one of her bridesmaids making dress plans…

Although this isn’t 100% over I’d say I’m past the hardest part…

Thanks again for the support guys

I posted this when I proposed in February

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooVmJ01D3jo

That sounds like a fantastic development, Jsaad.  I don't have much that hasn't already been said by many of our wonderful posters on this one, but I've been following the thread the whole way and just wanted to let you know that I'm  rooting for ya as well and that this all blows over.  Certainly sounds like it's headed in the right direction now.

Ultimately, it's just about livin' and learnin', right?

Great showing by the rest of our community on this one as well...many TPs to dole out when I'm not being hassled at work...

-sw

[wdleehi]

Good to hear things are working out.

[Roy Hobbs]

Very nice news, Jsaad.  I'm very glad to hear that things are heading in the right direction.

(Now tell her to stop snooping through your inbox! )

[nickagneta]

When Pierce getting pulled over for a traffic violation and Jsaad's love life are to two most talked about things on Celticsblog, you know it's the offseason.

Thank good the Patriots start preseason Thursday.

[JSD]

Dude, you're definitely marrying up, as the saying goes.

You know, if your girlfriend did her MySpace photo in a bikini it would be....

Nevermind, we've been there and done that already.

Ha-ha thanks Nick, I do have a great catch.

[libermaniac]

Now that your relationship has gone public, are you going to post blow-by-blow details of the make up sex? 

Totally kidding.  I'm glad you worked things out.  I totally remember that proposal video - that was one of the coolest things I've ever seen.  No way you were going to lose that girl.

[JSD]

Now that your relationship has gone public, are you going to post blow-by-blow details of the make up sex? 

Totally kidding.  I'm glad you worked things out.  I totally remember that proposal video - that was one of the coolest things I've ever seen.  No way you were going to lose that girl.

The camera hides well we'll see.

Haha, oh god I'm kidding.



I told her to pack for the night this Saturday because where going away.

she said "I hate surprises I need to know what to pack"

I said "pack your nicest gown."

I'm taking her a camping trip...

I'd say she's thrown off 

[libermaniac]

Jsaad, what's the the Rockets logo?  Is that because they are the C's next victim?

[JSD]

Jsaad, what's the the Rockets logo?  Is that because they are the C's next victim?

The Celticsblog fantasy draft takes place in the summer.

Those who participate are assigned a team.

[guava_wrench]

Dude...you say you have removed Myspace from your computer?

Maybe you can download some nads to your pants.

Seriously.

Chances are shes gettin it on with your best friend and has just been waiting for an excuse.

Move on....plenty more fish in the sea.

Hey, aren't you one of the frat guys from Borat? Nice to have a celebrity onboard.

[blackbird]

There's an Elvis song for every situation, and this one calls for "Suspicious Minds." Women, I have found, just melt when you sing to them. Go to a karaoke bar with her (Paul Pierce's place, perhaps?) and sing this to her- even if you can't carry a tune at all, she will love it that you are willing to put yourself out like that.

We're caught in a trap
I can't walk out
Because I love you too much baby

Why can't you see
What you're doing to me
When you don't believe a word I say?

We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And we can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds

So, if an old friend I know
Drops by to say hello
Would I still see suspicion in your eyes?

Here we go again
Asking where I've been
You can't see these tears are real
I'm crying

We can't go on together
With suspicious minds
And be can't build our dreams
On suspicious minds

Oh let our love survive
Or dry the tears from your eyes
Let's don't let a good thing die

When honey, you know
I've never lied to you

[ACF]

Jsaad, what's the the Rockets logo?  Is that because they are the C's next victim?

The Celticsblog fantasy draft takes place in the summer.

Those who participate are assigned a team.

I forgot to compliment you for
rockin' the old school logo!
It's so much better than what they
have now.

I hope everything will be okay with
the girl and never mind those !""#¤%&"
who keep BS'ing. They've obviously
never been in love... Kinda sad, really.

[cdif911]

Sorry I missed out on love line... but its good to see things are working out JSAD (hope she doesn't read the blog - or she'll know where she's going for the surprise!) - but I think the easy thing for you to do is just blow it off and even break up with her over it, and you took the harder road, obviously you care about the girl, heck you're going to marry her, so I think every guy screws up at some point in some way, no one's perfect, things like this ultimately make a relationship stronger, and she'll probably screw up somehow too, and you can rub this in her face (kidding!) - but yeah, enjoy the trip, good luck!

[bucknersrevenge]

I want to thank the many on here that gave me such good advice.

I took a lot from different posters who have had varying experiences and unique ways of handling their own situation. I was able to hand pick through and customize what matches up best with my situation.

Everyone is different with some people being very immature on one hand but “years ahead” when dealing with a different situation. I think that may apply here. I have a wonderful person in my life. Our strengths as a couple far outweigh are weaknesses. I happened to air the biggest controversy in our relationship public on Celticslog because I was nervous. After meeting some of the best and brightest on these pages, this is where I turned for feedback and input like I have so many times before for varies other topics (although usually pertaining to the Celtics/basketball).

I showed an ugly couple pixels of a big beautiful picture…

Yesterday was filled with high emotion and it was the aftermath of the first experience I’ve had really disappointing and hurting the person I plan on spending the rest of my life with. She reacted on pure “This is the end of the world emotion” and in my head I reacted the same way.

I’m a simple person. I work, go to school, exercise and I come home eat dinner and spend time with Ashley. Occasionally I’ll go fishing or mess around with music applications on my computer. I threw her a curveball inside and it hit her on the face. She got upset, had something to say, threatened charge but ultimately took her base.

I went home last night and to my surprise she was there. I comforted and reminded her “I have everything I need physically and emotionally right here.” She began to ease up. Soon the emotion starting to whittle to the point we could actually have a conversation. I summarized her fear “I understand why you are upset, your interpretation was by giving her attention that would lead to conversation as if I was looking for something from her. That’s not the case.” fortunately my track record backed that up. 

Her ring is still on her finger and later on that night she was on the phone with one of her bridesmaids making dress plans…

Although this isn’t 100% over I’d say I’m past the hardest part…

Thanks again for the support guys

I posted this when I proposed in February

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooVmJ01D3jo

thats great news J. that video is all class my man. sounds like she wised up . i recognize that boardwalk in that picture at the 1:08 mark. i was there a couple of months ago thats a nice beach. my gf and i went up there trying to get our fortunes told but she wasnt there. guess she wasnt that psychic or else she wouldve known we were coming. congrats on the tragedy averted.

[ACF]

Dude...you say you have removed Myspace from your computer?

Maybe you can download some nads to your pants.

Seriously.

Chances are shes gettin it on with your best friend and has just been waiting for an excuse.

Move on....plenty more fish in the sea.

Hey, aren't you one of the frat guys from Borat? Nice to have a celebrity onboard.

Well said, guava.
TP.