My girl is very upset with me and I need advice.

[kozlodoev]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

[JSD]

I'm fuming...

She just text me saying she's staying at her friends tonight...

Let her.  It's a power play; she doesn't mean it.

It will give you some time to think.  I'd also recommend this approach:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_J-lxK8uCY

Thanks for the video Roy but I think that might get me arrested for disturbing the peace.

Know any good lawyers?

[iowa plowboy]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

I don't have enough respect for a fake doctor and and the great crocodile teared phony  who make their livings exploiting dunderheads to spell their names right.  

If a person isn't wasting their time on these ventures as well as the useless exchange of meaningless information on boppersites, they can be a lot more productive.

[kozlodoev]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

I don't have enough respect for a fake doctor and and the great crocodile teared phony  who make their livings exploiting dunderheads to spell their names right.  

If a person isn't wasting their time on these ventures as well as the useless exchange of meaningless information on boppersites, they can be a lot more productive.

I am personally wasting my time to maintain a network of school friends which are currently in about a dozen of different countries around the world, but thank you for stereotyping anyhow. It usually comes hand in hand with not having enough respect.

Also, please note _you_ are likewise currently wasting your time on a site that discusses a bunch of college dropouts chasing an a ball around the court. You know, a middleagebopper type of place.

[indeedproceed]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

I don't have enough respect for a fake doctor and and the great crocodile teared phony  who make their livings exploiting dunderheads to spell their names right. 

If a person isn't wasting their time on these ventures as well as the useless exchange of meaningless information on boppersites, they can be a lot more productive.

So your advice to Jsaad is to stop listening to Oprah and Dr Phil and stop wasting his time on MySpace because its limiting his productivity? Man this just keeps on getting more and more complex!

Its kind of like if I were stabbed in a barfight and asked for help performing first aid on myself, you'd say "Don't spend so much time in bars."

[wdleehi]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

I don't have enough respect for a fake doctor and and the great crocodile teared phony  who make their livings exploiting dunderheads to spell their names right. 

If a person isn't wasting their time on these ventures as well as the useless exchange of meaningless information on boppersites, they can be a lot more productive.

So your advice to Jsaad is to stop listening to Oprah and Dr Phil and stop wasting his time on MySpace because its limiting his productivity? Man this just keeps on getting more and more complex!

Its kind of like if I were stabbed in a barfight and asked for help performing first aid on myself, you'd say "Don't spend so much time in bars."

I think that is better advise then 'learn to stitch your own wounds.'

[iowa plowboy]

To me, these sites are nothing more than the prototype teenybopper texting somebody sitting right next to them....A collossal waste of time exchanging meaningless information and a great way for predatory behavior to thrive. 

Hopefully this person spends a little more time concentrating on something productive instead of posting on useless sites and watching or listening to Oprohish and DR. Dumbdumb-type advice.  You see, jssad, the people you're wasting your time exchanging sweet nothings with and the Oproh/Dr Dumbdumbs of the world aren't going to pay your attorney fees when she files for divorce...

Right, that's 'to you' strictly, by the way. At least you mentioned that this time.

To me, on the other hand, people should at least bother to learn how to spell someone's name when they talk about them.

I don't have enough respect for a fake doctor and and the great crocodile teared phony  who make their livings exploiting dunderheads to spell their names right.  

If a person isn't wasting their time on these ventures as well as the useless exchange of meaningless information on boppersites, they can be a lot more productive.

I am personally wasting my time to maintain a network of school friends which are currently in about a dozen of different countries around the world, but thank you for stereotyping anyhow. It usually comes hand in hand with not having enough respect.

Also, please note _you_ are likewise currently wasting your time on a site that discusses a bunch of college dropouts chasing an a ball around the court. You know, a middleagebopper type of place.

I'm not chasing women on this site or even giving the appearance of doing so, Kodlozev.  My lovely wife has actually met a couple of the middleagedboppers  on this site and approves.  It's not a secret. 

It's good that those two sites are actually occasionally used for "useful information".   

[The4Time2Doctor0]

dude, we can't help you; you're sporting a rockets logo.

[ChampKind]

dude, we can't help you; you're sporting a rockets logo.

Well in the same vain we wouldn't be able to help you, since you're a pirate and have a whole difference set of rules.

The Rockets logo is for the fantasy draft.

[MLG5]

I'm thinking about getting metal legs...it's a risky operation, but it'll be worth it.

[guava_wrench]

I've been married for 21 years and in love with the same woman for 26 but love of that kind has to be trustworthy and reciprocal. You are about to enter into a decision that is supposed to be binding for life. So, there is a couple of things to look at here:

1.) If after the length of your current relationship she is still going through your e-mails, texts, and phone and you are still visiting sites like MySpace, that as far as I am concerned is nothing more than glorified net hook up site, and complimenting women in a sexual way, are either of you really ready for marriage?

2.) Considering her insecurity, and that's what it is if she is spying on you, and your fear of upsetting her, you're closet smoking and alcohol craziness when not with her, are you even right for each other never mind being married to each other?

Nothing anyone here says will help you to find answers to those questions. Only she and you know the answers to these questions and they are questions you both need to address not just you.

Marriage and relationships are about four main things, love, trust, understanding, and sacrifice. Without these things coming from both ends of the relationship, the relationship is doomed to fail.

Do you love her and does she love you?

Do you trust her and does she trust you?

Do you understand her and accept her for who she is and not what she can become? Does she feel the same way?

Will you sacrifice certain aspects of your life so that the relationship will last? Will she?

If any of the answers to the following questions are "no", Jsaad, my friend, there's a problem and you both need to address them.

Right now there is a tremendous amount of emotion happening that needs to stop before you two can talk. Let it abate. Let her sleep over her girlfriend's house. Time to cool off is good.

Then you two need to talk and address certain things. Love is obviously there but understanding sacrifice and acceptance need work. Let her know everything about everything. Not just this incident but about the smoking and some of the other things she seems to be trying to get you to change. Let her know that there needs to be some sacrifice and acceptance and understanding on her end too.

And if you two are truly committed to each other and can't work it out alone, seek professional counceling.

I think with you smoking and drinking you might have mixed me up with another poster...

Do you love her and does she love you? Yes

Do you trust her and does she trust you? Yes, going forward though...

Do you understand her and accept her for who she is and not what she can become? Does she feel the same way? absolutly.

Will you sacrifice certain aspects of your life so that the relationship will last? Will she? I have and will.

Would she go through my cell if I left it at home? Probably

Would she take my cell because she "needs" to know who I've been talking to? No way

I'm considering not responding to this text.

Sorry, that was IP who wrote that, my bad.

Now you have answered those questions, but she now has to as well and in front of you.

Never text when arguing with each other. It has to be verbal or too much can get misconstrued. Let her calm down. Don't respond. Let her make the next contact.

You messed up. You realized it. You apologized. You have assured her that it will not happen again.

Her move. If her move is to sleep at a friend's house she is doing it to calm down or provoke a reaction. Let her calm down and don't play games. Let her contact you and then calmly discuss coming home to have dinner and talk over some issues. And then address all issues. She needs to be held accountable for spying on you and not trusting you.

Can we have a special section on Celticsblog where Nick answers relationship questions? It could bring in a lot of advertising revenue.

[kozlodoev]

It's good that those two sites are actually occasionally used for "useful information".   

Really? I am hard pressed to find an actual social use of having 10 men run around and try to drop a ball in an iron circle, other than providing a bunch of middle-age boppers with an outlet to waste their time and money.

I mean, imagine how much more productive you would be if you got some extra sleep instead of watching late-night games, and invested the amount of money you spent on NBA stuff in something profitable.

[Roy Hobbs]

I'm fuming...

She just text me saying she's staying at her friends tonight...

Let her.  It's a power play; she doesn't mean it.

It will give you some time to think.  I'd also recommend this approach:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_J-lxK8uCY

Thanks for the video Roy but I think that might get me arrested for disturbing the peace.

Know any good lawyers?

No good ones.

[MLG5]

I apologize for my earlier insensitivity. the fact that it was (and remains) monday morning and there is such limited celtics news to discuss culimated in my heartless response. unfortunately i am the last person that should be offering advice on relationships so i won't waste anyone's time. again, my apolgies and good luck to all of you bitten by the love bug.

in other news, i'm still thinking about getting metal legs...

[iowa plowboy]

It's good that those two sites are actually occasionally used for "useful information".   

Really? I am hard pressed to find an actual social use of having 10 men run around and try to drop a ball in an iron circle, other than providing a bunch of middle-age boppers with an outlet to waste their time and money.

I mean, imagine how much more productive you would be if you got some extra sleep instead of watching late-night games, and invested the amount of money you spent on NBA stuff in something profitable.

The Lord created DVRs for old people like me who don't want to stay up late to watch West Coast games when the C's play there.  Other than watching a few bits and pieces of Kobe's games, I don't watch anything else NBA.   The C's generally play before my bedtime, Kodlozev.  I'm also not looking for "social use" on CelticsBlog although I've made some great friends here.

My advice, for our hapless victim posting on a dumb website, is to not wait until you screw up or for a day to pass on a calender (birthday etc) to make your mate feel special.  The LAST thing I'd do is send flowers or make some plastic gesture after I screw up.  Those things are just random things you do to make your mate feel special.