no worries! I definitely think that guys like LeBron get the benefit of the doubt, but I also think that guys like KG and Perk got the same sort of treatment in some areas (particularly illegal screens), so I think there's a bit of a balancing act there.
The difference is that I don't think it's a malicious thing: I think it has more to do with the age of the referees and the difficulty of calling the game in general.
I think the rules are called differently for certain players, but I don't necessarily think it's a conspiracy by the league so much as it is a consequence of those players having such a major impact on the game that the refs simply can't call the rules the same way.
It's not practical the call the game the same way for physical freaks like LeBron, Griffin, Howard, Shaq, etc. They get hacked all of the time, and they also bully the heck out of opponents all of the time. They use their strength and speed to get past or bowl over opponents and overmatched opponents respond, frequently, the only way they can. Unless we want to see a foul called multiple times on each possession, you've got to adjust in those situations.
Then you have players like KG. KG purposefully does relatively small dirty things 100% of the time and dares the refs to call him for any particular infraction. Taken together, it all helps KG to make a big impact defensively and get in his opponents' heads even though he doesn't get called for it that often.
What I do think the league has a hand in with respect to refereeing is keeping games and series close. I think the league tells refs to try and keep things as close as possible without too blatantly favoring one side.
At times the refs do seem to blatantly favor one side, but I think that's probably a result of refs being human and being influence by the crowd or doing a poor job in the heat of the moment.