Having serious relationship issues right now and need some place to vent.
Guess this is it...lol
Here's the situation:
I was introduced to my BEST FREIND'S SISTER roughly 6-7 months ago. When we met, she was introduced to me as a lesbian with no interest in men.
We immediately became friends and always had a good time when we would hang out(never alone just with my best friend or other groups of people).
About a month after we met she texted me that she was interested in us hooking up. So obviously me being a 22 year old man, her being a VERY attractive woman, how could I turn down free sex??
After hooking up twice she told me that she wants to take another step and stop seeing other people. I was caught completely by surprise. I never thought this would turn into anything more than sex, nor did I want it too.
That said, I got along with her so well and figured why not give it a shot right??
We started dating, seeing each other 3-4 times a week. Everything was great but still not that serious. A little over a month into this, my girlfriend cheated on me with another WOMAN. Given, it was not another man, but cheating is cheating.
Needless to say, I broke it off saying I obviously couldn't be emotionally invested in someone who is so quick to be promiscuous.
After this we still talked and stayed friendly. During this time, she was actively pursuing the woman she cheated on me with trying to start a relationship with her. It bothered me, but it wasn't a big deal, we were never really that serious.
About a month later she asked me over to talk. I came by her house and she broke down telling me how she should never have done what she did to me and how badly she wanted to give us another shot.
I obviously had to think seriously on the subject before accepting her back, but eventually I decided I would give us another shot because there was definitely something that could be special there.
Fast forward 3 months and we are HAPPY AS CAN BE. Everything is perfect. I have never been this happy in my life and we are literally inseparable.
She constantly told me how happy she was, and how she wanted us to be a family(she has 2 kids age 4 and 1 who I have become VERY attached to...) and how she would never leave me.
We went through a lot in those 3 months. She ended losing A LOT of money over the holiday season for reasons I wont get into here. Because I was so committed and invested in this relationship, I bought all the presents and christmas stuff for the family because they mean the world to me. She told me how she would love me forever for being there for them when they needed it most and I loved the feeling of providing. It was...incredible.
About a month later, her father was in the hospital in ICU for a month. I called out of work for a week at risk of losing my job just so she had a way to get out to her father and see him. I love this girl more than I could ever imagine I could have loved anyone and NEVER want to see her unhappy.
Everything is going so great that when my lease at the house I was living at ends at the end of that month, she insists we take the next step and move in together. I was a little unsure, but everything was so perfect how could I turn it down?? I loved every second I spent with her.
This was roughly 3 weeks ago.
Yesterday something seemed to be bothering my girl so I asked her what was wrong.....and boy was I surprised by the answer.
She told me she felt like I was smothering her, and that being around me all the time isn't working for her. She also told me that she was unsure if she even wanted to see me any more because I'm "too much" for her.
She had never once even hinted that something was wrong with our relationship until this point.
Then today she told me I should look for a new place to live so we can take a step back.
I told her if she's so insistant on taking steps backwards that I'm not interested in the relationship.
So we've just been arguing all day back and forth and I doubt this will ever get fixed.
So I'm packing stuff, and waiting until this Thursday when I can move into my friends place.
This really sucks!!!!
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