well, i am sure you have touched a heart thread in every guy here. i know i went through the same thing, more than once. i dont know if there is a single good answer or not.
can you provide more details about her and yourself? (at least ages, how long you've known her, etc.)
off the top of my head and without the info, i would say the simplest, most humane, and, years from now, the approach you will likely be glad you took, is to be simple and direct with her and find out. better that than regrets later.
maybe take her to a place that is not too public and does not require you to stay there if everything goes up in ball of flame (avoid restaurants where you would to wait for food, etc. if this does not go well, you probably dont want to sit there.)
before that, work out a short simple script and practice it so that you are not too fast or rambling. say what you want to say. simple. direct.
then tell her your feelings and ask her her feelings.
sooooo simple, yet so hard, right?
good luck.
I agree. I just.... I feel like we had a great connection, and no we didn't hook up or like make out/ or go further. But the night we spent together, we had a lot of fun, and had plenty of physical intimacy. She said she just didn't feel comfortable, or felt like she knew me enough yet to do something like that. Plus my roommates were there, and MADE it WAY too hard for her to want to come back to my bed.
Just wondering if anyone can give me some advice on this.
I like this girl, and at first I was pretty sure she was very interested in me, and the feeling was both mutual. Although, I didn't have feelings for her, I just wanted to hook up. But she wanted a more serious/committed relationship, and I started treating her more like a friend, and I guess that is where I am now.
How can I get back to where I was, and move on from being just 'friends?'
Not sure if I posted in wrong thread, but the truth is I'm falling for this girl hard. Other girls want to spend time with me, but in the long run, shes someone that I really do want to be with.
I'm sorry that I'm unable to help at all in this endeavor, lol , but I do have one question for you regarding the emboldened part of your post - what's that like, ahaha? Btw, for once, I'm not being sarcastic. Now off to the 2 chainz thread...
I mean, girls are people too. They wear masks, because their afraid of being judged. I don't judge them, and I ask them deep/interesting questions about why they do this, why they do this. For example, "Have you ever wanted to just grab your things, get up and runaway to some far away place that you've never been before?"
Girls love that. As for how is it? Its fun, although its crazy how I'm asking this friend question, but I'm actually putting a few interested girls in me as friends too lol.
Unfortunately, I guess my main problem with this girl is that I'm too afraid to touch her more, and get to know her more better, because she kind of told me that she wasn't interested.
But... I guess truthfully when I met her, I never wanted to ever be friends, and now that I didn't make a move, or let her know I was interested.
Anyways, thanks for your advice guys. I appreciate it.