Which type of flowers should I send?

[PaulPierce34G]

I've been dating a woman for about a month now and things have been going very well (then again, don't they always in the beginning?).  Her birthday is coming up and I want to send her some flowers and a card.  I am going to stray from sending red roses because I think that might be too much this early on, but still I want to send something that will make a good impression.  I'm open to all suggestions, especially if you've been in the same boat or if you can suggest any alternatives outside of flowers.

I'm 28, she's going to be 24, so this isn't like a 'high school' type of romance or anything and she isn't an immature type of girl, fresh out of college who is always looking to party and all of that jazz...just a very professional, young woman..just to kind of give a broad view of the type of person I'm dealing with.

[indeedproceed]

I'd decide how much money I'm going to spend on her, then I'd go to/call a local florist and ask for a 'spring bouquet' with a few roses for that amount less $10.

[fairweatherfan]

I was never a big flowers guy but I had Gerber daisies recommended to me by a couple of female friends and they seemed to go over pretty well (not that well, though, the woman I married thinks flowers are a dumb gift and I'm totally on board).

Just one with a little note or gift attached can go a long way. 

[Lucky17]

I've been dating a woman for about a month now and things have been going very well (then again, don't they always in the beginning?).  Her birthday is coming up and I want to send her some flowers and a card.  I am going to stray from sending red roses because I think that might be too much this early on, but still I want to send something that will make a good impression.  I'm open to all suggestions, especially if you've been in the same boat or if you can suggest any alternatives outside of flowers.

I'm 28, she's going to be 24, so this isn't like a 'high school' type of romance or anything and she isn't an immature type of girl, fresh out of college who is always looking to party and all of that jazz...just a very professional, young woman..just to kind of give a broad view of the type of person I'm dealing with.

Only a month in, so this may be a hard question to answer: what would she really like/appreciate?

My partner would likely view a "romantic" gesture of a bouquet of roses as a vulgar, extravagant waste of money (she's basically said as much when I've brought it up). For Valentine's Day, I bought her a small orchid plant, which she loved, and has been caring after months later. She's also nuts about lilacs, because they remind her of her childhood.

If you've got some time with her before her birthday approaches, see if you can pick up on something she says or reacts to while you're with her.

BTW, are you sending to her workplace, or home?

[PaulPierce34G]

I've been dating a woman for about a month now and things have been going very well (then again, don't they always in the beginning?).  Her birthday is coming up and I want to send her some flowers and a card.  I am going to stray from sending red roses because I think that might be too much this early on, but still I want to send something that will make a good impression.  I'm open to all suggestions, especially if you've been in the same boat or if you can suggest any alternatives outside of flowers.

I'm 28, she's going to be 24, so this isn't like a 'high school' type of romance or anything and she isn't an immature type of girl, fresh out of college who is always looking to party and all of that jazz...just a very professional, young woman..just to kind of give a broad view of the type of person I'm dealing with.

Only a month in, so this may be a hard question to answer: what would she really like/appreciate?

My partner would likely view a "romantic" gesture of a bouquet of roses as a vulgar, extravagant waste of money (she's basically said as much when I've brought it up). For Valentine's Day, I bought her a small orchid plant, which she loved, and has been caring after months later. She's also nuts about lilacs, because they remind her of her childhood.

If you've got some time with her before her birthday approaches, see if you can pick up on something she says or reacts to while you're with her.

BTW, are you sending to her workplace, or home?

I was planning on having them sent to her home.  I don't want to go overboard for sure, but I don't want to send something skimpy either.  She seems like a pretty simple woman, not high maintenance at all.  We've gone out every weekend and have met for coffee a few times during the week over the last month or so.  She's even paid for some of our dating activities, which I thought was pretty cool.  Don't get me wrong, I'm the guy and I pay whenever necessary, but it's been nice to have someone be sort of on that equal level, if you will.

[Boris Badenov]

I've been dating a woman for about a month now and things have been going very well (then again, don't they always in the beginning?).  Her birthday is coming up and I want to send her some flowers and a card.  I am going to stray from sending red roses because I think that might be too much this early on, but still I want to send something that will make a good impression.  I'm open to all suggestions, especially if you've been in the same boat or if you can suggest any alternatives outside of flowers.

I'm 28, she's going to be 24, so this isn't like a 'high school' type of romance or anything and she isn't an immature type of girl, fresh out of college who is always looking to party and all of that jazz...just a very professional, young woman..just to kind of give a broad view of the type of person I'm dealing with.

Only a month in, so this may be a hard question to answer: what would she really like/appreciate?

My partner would likely view a "romantic" gesture of a bouquet of roses as a vulgar, extravagant waste of money (she's basically said as much when I've brought it up). For Valentine's Day, I bought her a small orchid plant, which she loved, and has been caring after months later. She's also nuts about lilacs, because they remind her of her childhood.

If you've got some time with her before her birthday approaches, see if you can pick up on something she says or reacts to while you're with her.

BTW, are you sending to her workplace, or home?

I was planning on having them sent to her home.  I don't want to go overboard for sure, but I don't want to send something skimpy either.  She seems like a pretty simple woman, not high maintenance at all.  We've gone out every weekend and have met for coffee a few times during the week over the last month or so.  She's even paid for some of our dating activities, which I thought was pretty cool.  Don't get me wrong, I'm the guy and I pay whenever necessary, but it's been nice to have someone be sort of on that equal level, if you will.

I think one of those little miniature rose bushes might be a decent choice. They're roses, but it's also something that will last and it's a little more practical.

Where I live you can get them in the supermarket for like $15.

[Lucky17]

Irises or tulips might be nice? Personally, I like flowers for their colors, not their fragrance.

Birth flower for month of May is lily of the valley, FWIW.

I suspect the card will mean more to her than the flowers.

[pearljammer10]

I don't see how you can go wrong with Roses even though you were against it. I would go with a bouquet of blue or white or a combo... Less cliche, more creative, and still romantic and caring.

[SHAQATTACK]

Save your money

Find a rich ol widow  to lavish money on you...

[Chief]

[BballTim]

I've been dating a woman for about a month now and things have been going very well (then again, don't they always in the beginning?).  Her birthday is coming up and I want to send her some flowers and a card.  I am going to stray from sending red roses because I think that might be too much this early on, but still I want to send something that will make a good impression.  I'm open to all suggestions, especially if you've been in the same boat or if you can suggest any alternatives outside of flowers.

I'm 28, she's going to be 24, so this isn't like a 'high school' type of romance or anything and she isn't an immature type of girl, fresh out of college who is always looking to party and all of that jazz...just a very professional, young woman..just to kind of give a broad view of the type of person I'm dealing with.

  Go to a website like 1800flowers and pick out something colorful. They have a large selection of birthday arrangements (I just went through this last week for my mother's birthday). The "birthday" theme (be it a balloon or whatever) will help assure that she doesn't read more into the flowers than you want her to.

[PaulPierce34G]

Save your money

Find a rich ol widow  to lavish money on you...

LOL, hmmm, that doesn't sound like a bad idea!   

Thanks for all of the suggestions everyone.  I'll definitely keep it simple with a nice bouquet/arrangement and make sure my card is where the gift 'packs the punch', as Lucky17 kind of said.  The two of us are definitely attracted to one another and we definitely want to get a full fledged relationship going...I just don't want to give a signal that I'm moving too fast, hence why I am not going to be giving red roses. 

If all else fails, I'll just find myself a cougar. 

[bdm860]

I've been there before dude.

I say, go to a place like 1800Flowers.com, look around in the Birthday, Congratulations, Housewarming, Just Because, Love & Romance, or Thank You categories, and pick anything that’s not predominately red/pink.  Probably end up being between $60-$85 with delivery and add-ons.


Something like this:

[BASS_THUMPER]

dont send

hand her one red rose

[timobusa]

dont send

hand her one red rose

My man bass thumper is right on the money!

Go get her tiger!