No offense or anything, but nobody really cares how many hours people you know work to support their families. If that's what they need to do for themselves and their family then they do it.
Unlike the NBA ASG which has fines and team penalties, the MLB ASG is optional as is the NFL Pro Bowl. So the players are given a choice. Jeter doens't have to attend the ASG if he doesn't want to, period. See the difference?
Didn't a guy named Tom Brady skip out on the Pro Bowl, and maybe even more than once. I think it's been a recent trend for Pro Bowl selected Super Bowl participants to skip the game.