Where do you go for a date?

[KungPoweChicken]

I'm not sure what you guys are in to, but plays, the orchestra, museums, etc., can always be a good time.  Weekend trips are always a lot of fun, too.

Have you enjoyed an evening at the opera as well?

[Roy Hobbs]

I'm not sure what you guys are in to, but plays, the orchestra, museums, etc., can always be a good time.  Weekend trips are always a lot of fun, too.

Have you enjoyed an evening at the opera as well?

Despite the subtle hint of sarcasm, yes, I've been to the opera, as well.  There is nothing wrong with culture.

[Edgar]

I'm not sure what you guys are in to, but plays, the orchestra, museums, etc., can always be a good time.  Weekend trips are always a lot of fun, too.

Have you enjoyed an evening at the opera as well?

Despite the subtle hint of sarcasm, yes, I've been to the opera, as well.  There is nothing wrong with culture.

subtle hint of sarcasm....

<<<rock and roll>>>>>>>

[Edgar]

I'm not sure what you guys are in to, but plays, the orchestra, museums, etc., can always be a good time.  Weekend trips are always a lot of fun, too.

Have you enjoyed an evening at the opera as well?

Despite the subtle hint of sarcasm, yes, I've been to the opera, as well.  There is nothing wrong with culture.

subtle hint of sarcasm....

<<<rock and roll>>>>>>>

My name is Hobbs ......  Roy Hobbs


p.s. this one goes to roy hobbs fact thread

[youcanthandlethetruth113]

So my girlfriend lives in RI, where I am originally from.  Every weekend, I make my way down there from the Boston area & normally we go out to dinner/movie, dinner and say go to a place like Dave & Buster's, or to dinner then go back to her house to watch a movie.  While this is all good stuff, it does get old if you keep doing it for 3-4-5 weeks straight. We've gone to 2 Celtics games this year, the last Patriots game of the season up in Buffalo in December, so we do some fun stuff. However, outside of that, the routine seems to be stuck in this pattern of just going to dinner & a movie.  It sucks because it is currently winter, thus meaning no mini golf places are open or there is nothing really to do that is outdoorsy, like going to the beach.  I mean, we could go bowling, shoot pool, go to a place & have a drink.  I'm 24, she is 20, but she has a fake ID.  Anyways, its kind of difficult to decide what to do because she says no to a lot of things...ie, bowling, pool, getting a drink...its as if she complains we do the same thing all the time, but when I try to think of other activities, she shoots them down.  I've mentioned ice skating, sledding/tubing, but still, "no."  Anyone have any ideas? 

I noticed a few decent suggestions, but I feel the majority of suggestions you received you already tried to bring forward to your woman already.

I'm confused...does your woman not enjoy an alcoholic beverage or is she just tired with the whole "going out for a drink" thing? (Personally, I hate "going for a drink". I feel as though I'm paying a premium for an atmosphere I could care less about, the dreaded commute, its too loud to hear anything, terrible music, etc...). 

Since the cliff-walk has already been suggested...my suggestions are as follows:

1. Hit Bellevue Avenue and take her on that 10-mile Ocean drive. She will be dazzled by the ocean view and will be salivating at the mouth at the size of the mansions along the drive.

2. Hit the Newport Dinner Train Ride. The reviews are hilariously awful. Either you'll enjoy the experience or you will hate it, but either way you and your girl will be talking about if for the next (gulp) decade.

3. (I know this one is not possible during the winter but figured I'd throw it in anyways)..."From May to October, bonfires are lit on the three rivers of downtown Providence as part of a unique urban sculpture by award-winning artist Barnaby Evans. Together with music from around the world, the glow and aroma of the fires create an enchanting atmosphere for onlookers."

Hope that helps (now TP me up! )

To answer your question about going out for a drink.  Basically its 2 things...1) She is sometimes afraid to use her fake ID, she once got caught using it to enter a night club, but luckily they gave it back to her & told her to split.  Secondly, I don't think she is really down for just going out and hanging at a place, kicking back with a couple drinks, talking about different things.  She is still in the party hard phase, whereas I am now at the stage I can live without it.  Not saying I won't go to a party if the opportunity presents itself, but my weekends no longer revolve full circle around them anymore.

I've definitely been browsing the gonewport.com website today, have found some good things.  I did see that dinner train, that looks pretty cool, too.  I purchased tickets for a murder mystery tour at the Astor Beechwood Mansion for Friday night down in Newport.  Probably grab some dinner down there, as well.  Here's your TP, too.

Thanks for the TP!

I'd just like to caution you that while that dinner train ride was a suggestion of mine I want to make clear that I have never been on it and have read extremely mixed reviews. Take the time to read the reviews for sure. Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[thirstyboots18]

Speaking as an "ex" girl,  we love to dance!  Also, try going to a museum (either art, or science...gives you lots to talk about after, and fun holding hands and discussing exhibits.  The comedy clubs idea is a good one...or how about a kareoke nite for a laugh.  I liked pool, bowling, horseback riding, trip to the track (horse or dog) just be sure to set a betting limit before you go.  Also, if a church or club is having a Las Vegas night, that can be fun.   Think outside the box, and read the newspapers...there are usually plays being put on somewhere nearby, or concerts....Good Luck!

[Kwhit10]

Another suggestion, have you ever gone to the Breakers and taken a tour of those mansions?

[Gomesfan]

A rock concert isn't the ticket(and not the " big ticket"). Your not gonna get to talk. I always loved to go to the aquarium in Boston, it's fun and your learn alot about each other and nature. You will have a smile on your face's during and after, then you could shoot over to the North End for a little speghetti, meatballs and gravy and a little culture to boot.

[Chris]

So my girlfriend lives in RI, where I am originally from.  Every weekend, I make my way down there from the Boston area & normally we go out to dinner/movie, dinner and say go to a place like Dave & Buster's, or to dinner then go back to her house to watch a movie.  While this is all good stuff, it does get old if you keep doing it for 3-4-5 weeks straight. We've gone to 2 Celtics games this year, the last Patriots game of the season up in Buffalo in December, so we do some fun stuff. However, outside of that, the routine seems to be stuck in this pattern of just going to dinner & a movie.  It sucks because it is currently winter, thus meaning no mini golf places are open or there is nothing really to do that is outdoorsy, like going to the beach.  I mean, we could go bowling, shoot pool, go to a place & have a drink.  I'm 24, she is 20, but she has a fake ID.  Anyways, its kind of difficult to decide what to do because she says no to a lot of things...ie, bowling, pool, getting a drink...its as if she complains we do the same thing all the time, but when I try to think of other activities, she shoots them down.  I've mentioned ice skating, sledding/tubing, but still, "no."  Anyone have any ideas? 

So it sounds like you have gone through a bunch of things you like to do, but what does SHE like to do?  Does she like Art (go to museums, or even better, go and check out some of the smaller galleries)?  Theater?  Animals (a friend of mine spent valentines day petting dogs at an animal shelter, and got major points for it)?  Old movies (you can often find them being shown at small/independent theaters)?  Music (concerts are always fun...I wouldn't recommend them when you are just getting to know each other, but when you have been together for a while, and don't need to talk as much, it can be a lot of fun).

There really are a ton of different options, but it all depends on what she likes to do.   

[mkogav]

Most of these ideas are good, however they are one/two time things. You will soon be out of ideas again.

If you two don't have a rooted mutual interest which you may do continually together, e.g. indoor rock climbing, paintball, or a band in which u 2 r members then this may always be difficult for you.

My suggestion is to get married and have a couple of kids. Then you can spend what little free time you have together reminiscing about all the free time and fun stuff you did before you had kids.

Mk

[the_Bird]

I've been thinking back to the relationship that I was in when I was 18 - 22 or so.  We never really went on many "dates."  We didn't have that much money, but we weren't dirt-poor or anything.  Movies, occassionally.  Lived in a small town, but that's just an excuse.

When I look back on it, it was really just that we didn't have common interests.  We finally broke up (one of the smartest things I've ever done; the stupidest was date the same person all the way through college).

When I met my wife, though, it was just completely different.  What I liked to do, she liked to do.  New things that I found I enjoyed, she tended to as well (and vice versa).  There are some exceptions, but we'd find ourselves wanting to see the same movies, go to the same stores, go to different restaurants and try new foods, do the artsy stuff, the museums and plays and concerts and all of that.

Without wanting to be a downer, it kinda seems to me that finding something to do together SHOULDN'T be a problem, if you're inherently compatible. 

[dark_lord]

a few suggestions:

1. a play, or show (like blue man group, stomp, etc)
2. concert
3. disney on ice (dont front, this is fun and girls love it)
4. symphony
5. pool, bowling, ice skating, etc
6. foxwoods or mohegan
7. drive in movie (theres a place on rt 146)
8. sporting event
9. watch all six episodes of star wars

[JSD]

Why are you constantly going to see her?  

Boston > Anywhere else in New England! Get her to come up and see you too! Maybe alternate?

- Go to a show! www.pollstar.com has every show, big or small going on in New England.

- Go to, or host a house party with some serious Beirut action... ask her to be your teammate.

- Comedy connection is good too, Google "Comedy clubs in New england" you'll find a whole list of different places and comedians to check out.

- Randomly get a hotel and go out to dinner in a different neighborhood. It's good to spice things up

- Foxwoods or Mohegan Sun

What kind of budget are you working with?

[JSD]

Why do threads die after I post in them today? 

[nickagneta]

In Rhode Island during the spring and summer the river walk and the river fire boat rides is really a cool thing. It all takes place right downtown and a quick bite to eat at one of the restaurants at the mall is a good combo.

Try a Pawsox game come baseball time. It's inexpensive and the park is gorgeous and on weekend games they do fireworks after the game.

There's one complex downtown that has about 4 different dance clubs in it or at least 3-4 years ago it was still there. It had one club with a piano bar, one with hiphop top 40, one with rock, and one with country.

Take ballroom dancing lessons together. It sounds corny but is a ton of fun and with the whole Dancing with the Stars popularity, is becoming an in thing.

Any of the restaurants on Federal Hill. A couple are pricey but easily the best collection of restaurants in a small area that isn't the North End in all of New England.

Go to Lincoln Park and do the slot machines and put a couple bucks down on the doggies. They have a decent restaurant there too.

40 minutes south of Providence is Foxwoods. Soemtimes it's an experience just going down there and taking it all in if you haven't been there before. After that they have a couple clubs, lots of good restaurants, you got concerts there, boxing matches, and of course, gambling up the ying yang. But you can go down there and for less than a C note have a hell of a good time for a night.

Providence Bruins games are fun.

Just some of the stuff my wife and I tried when we lived down there.