just to update, unfortunately i have terrible news. my wife and i recently lost our #2 that i was so excited for. i am only sharing bc i have received some cool pm's from posters who have seen i posted that we were pregnant and they wished me congrats. we are both having a difficult time with this, but are hanging in there.
I lost two
this way, DL, so I know where you're at right now, and it's not a nice place to be. Everyone must find their own way to come to grips with such a thing, but what helped my (then) wife and I at the time, was knowing that it was a natural course, and that it generally happens because there's something wrong
with the developmental process, and this is the body's way of resolving
It may have been endangering your wife, or it may have been an issue with the baby's health. Whatever
the disposition, it was something serious enough for the body's self-defense mechanism to take over, and was very likely what needed
to take place. Knowing that really doesn't help the pain much, but feeling it wasn't just some random event, helped me come to grips with it.
Having spent a great deal of my life in medicine, I know that this has no bearing on future pregnancies ... a miscarriage is not necessarily an indication that that person is prone to them, or that there's a greater chance of it happening again. Each pregnancy is an event unto itself, and a healthy baby next time is just as possible as it was before
this event, so I hope you and your wife don't get discouraged from trying again.
There's really not much anyone
can say at a time like this .... everyone needs to grieve and heal in their own time and process, and I know you'll find your way, too. Just know that you're not alone, and that there are many here praying and hoping for the best, for you and
your family. No matter how dark the storm, the sun always
follows, and things will be better soon. God bless you and yours .... I'm so very sorry for your loss.