The ex and I helped our 3 kids out some but maxed out at $20,000 each over 4 years. We just decided we weren't going to put the house, the business and our retirements on the line for their education. So they each have some debt after graduating after 4 years, somewhere between $60-80,000 each.
Knowing they would be accumulating the debt made them more attentive to getting good grades to be eligible for and to get scholarships and it made them work while in school. Each one became RAs at their schools so got free room and board which saved them big bucks. Two of them did co-op programs for some semesters and used the money to pay for school, meaning less loans.
I had student loan debt. Now, my $12,000 owed in 1987 isn't anywhere near the $80,000 my oldest had in 2008 but I started a job out of college at $20,000 and he started his job at $75,000.
Anyway, just because my sons or I had to accrue student loan debt(and also pay for some of my kids college costs)isn't going to affect our thoughts that we would want our kids and grandkids to finish college with massively less student loan debt or none at all. Maybe convert about $35-70 billion a year from the Department of Defense and give it to the Department of Education. That should at least offset somewhat the continued increase in student debt each year which has been increasing yearly at levels between $60-110 billion a year, every year since 2004.
Take a look at this article. Just some staggering numbers regarding student loan debt:https://www.valuepenguin.com/average-student-loan-debt#nogo