Some games seems obviously one-sided and that's what makes it so hard to ignore. When you say that all teams feel the refs are out to get them, I think that is true. But that's not an argument for the point being made here that these guys are human and have politics and faults.
I see the problem as being correctable if refs are held to a much higher standard and accountability, like any other job.
If there is a no call or a blatant foul, and if the coaches request it, they should have to review it. It doesn't take long to watch reviews.
If a ref consistently makes poor calls, he should be demoted. Keep the calls correct and legal, as best as possible and most of all, consistent, and that will hold them to a higher standard.
Why are they allowed to get away with such horrible officiating?