There is too much going on for us to control for weight when trying to figure out ideals.
Looking at hunting and gathering groups, which is what our species was for most of our history, they look pretty lean. It may be that our body evolved to have maximum life expectancy at a much leaner body size than we consider decent looking at present. On the other hand, we evolved in ways that allowed our ancestors genes to be passed on, not in ways that would make our life enjoyable or worth living. We also likely did not evolve such that we would be healthy long past our fertile years when we no longer need to nurse.
Studies seem to show that extreme caloric restriction actually extends life expectancy, but that the restrictions are so extreme that is greatly decreases the quality of living.
My point is that there needs to be a trade-off between longevity and what will make your life livable based on your personality, including what you enjoy. This trade-off needs to take into account long-term effects, since most of us would rather make some sacrifices now than go through dialysis as a result of really bad diabetes.
I like your post. I'd like to add, however, to the people who are using large athletes and body builders as evidence to the contrary of the BMI, who says they are healthy in terms of longevity? Sure, they can run fast and they are strong (healthy in the present). But there have not been any scientific studies, which suggest these people have better longevity, which is what really matters. To my knowledge, like Guava_Wrench said, most longevity studies point to calorie restriction. Large body mass index, whether from fat or from weight lifting, seems to be bad for longevity.
As far as I'm concerned, I don't find the BMI to be as absurd as some people do. It should be attainable for everyone. Americans who lived in the early 1900's would be laughing their knickers off at this thread. Anyone who weighs more than 180lbs is probably, no doubt, at an increased risk of high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and a whole slew of other health problems.
And I really don't like the whole argument of, "If this is the standard tool for thinness, no wonder why so many women have eating disorders." America is the most obese country in the world. It seems like these days I see more fat women than thin women. Are we as a country just going to concede being fat now?
I believe there probably is a genetic component to obesity. And genetics plays a role in how your body type is, no doubt. Paul Piece is really fit, probably has very low body fat, and yet his body type is extremely different from Ray Allen, who is another finely tuned athlete at a comparative age. However, genetics is no excuse to be obese or even "fat," not in my opinion anyway.
I was once a high school athlete like the OP. when I played basketball and baseball, I weighed 150lbs. Keep in mind that I was a few inches shorter than the OP too. Nevertheless, I couldn't imagine carrying any more weight than 150lbs without feeling like a tank.
At present day, I'm almost in my mid twenties and weigh about 143lbs (lost weight because I don't lift weights anymore). I consume mostly fruits and vegetables and sometimes binge on junk food.