It's human nature to assign your own meaning to things. In communication, that causes a lot of issues; because the sender has a different meaning for something than the receiver.
It's one of the basic flaws in human communication.
Won't ever go away. Best we can do is acknowledge it when it happens and try to adapt our sending/receiving.
Unfortunately though, we tend to err on the side of the receiver, and thus blame the sender.
Regardless of intent.
The fun part comes in when intent IS malicious, and the receiver still chooses to interpret it as non-malicious. Even while they know the actual intent.
Fun, because at that point, it will fail at said malicious intent. Water off a duck's back.
Back to the issue at hand; it is what it is, just stop using that word already.
And if you do choose to use it; know that you run the risk of being (seen as) a bad person.
.ps: this stuff fascinates me to no end.
I think I understand where you're coming from. I remember taking a class called Interpersonal Communication and it definitely made me view how we communicate with each other in a different way. Actually, an analogy could be playing a one on one game where one person may be the offensive player and the other is defensive. Basically, one player is initiating a movement while the other is just responding to it. The direction it takes depends on the back and forth of such movement and it can be based on the offensive player (as in the player with the ball) going one way and the defender manipulating the player to go another way.
In this case, from what you seem to be referring to, the perception of what one player is doing can be completely different from what the other player is reacting to. Either way, I do find that aspect of communication to be pretty interesting.
Yeah, that's a close enough analogy
I think the biggest point is that people aren't agnostic, when it comes to words. They attach value and meaning to it. That's human nature.
Some people have been taught they can use a certain word all the time. Others have been taught the opposite. This is where someone might take offense. Even when the other person didn't mean offense. Imagine the word "normal" offending someone. Because of whatever. That's fine, if both know about that limitation. If one doesn't, then why would the other person take offense? They didn't MEAN to offend.
And that's kinda the problem. We don't look at intent as often as we should.
In the Kyrie vs Schroder case; we don't know the context, but if Kyrie takes offense, sure, Schroder could just apologise and move on. No big deal unless you turn it into one. Also, Kyrie could try not to make a huge deal out of it, unless he meant to raise public awareness on inequality again. Which I can get behind too. Too much inequality remains, so trying to make people talk about it more isn't a bad thing.
Anyway, just wanna state again; I think the world would be better off if we'd just stop using the word altogether. And if you do use it right now, well, you're rightfully subject to scrutiny.
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