I want to thank the many on here that gave me such good advice.
I took a lot from different posters who have had varying experiences and unique ways of handling their own situation. I was able to hand pick through and customize what matches up best with my situation.
Everyone is different, with some people can be very immature on one hand but “years ahead” when dealing with a different situation. I think that may apply here. I have a wonderful person in my life. Our strengths as a couple far outweigh are weaknesses. I happened to air the biggest controversy in our relationship public on Celticslog because I was nervous. After meeting some of the best and brightest on these pages, this is where I turned for feedback and input like I have so many times before for varies other topics (although usually pertaining to the Celtics/basketball).
I showed an ugly couple pixels of a big beautiful picture…
Yesterday was filled with high emotion and it was the aftermath of the first experience I’ve had really disappointing and hurting the person I plan on spending the rest of my life with. She reacted on pure “This is the end of the world emotion” and in my head I reacted the same way.
I’m a simple person. I work, go to school, exercise and I come home eat dinner and spend time with Ashley. Occasionally I’ll go fishing or mess around with music applications on my computer. I threw her a curveball inside and it hit her on the face. She got upset, had something to say, threatened charge but ultimately took her base.
I went home last night and to my surprise she was there. I comforted and reminded her “I have everything I need physically and emotionally right here.” She began to ease up. Soon the emotion started to whittle to the point that we could actually have a normal conversation. I summarized her fear “I understand why you are upset, your interpretation was by me giving her attention that would lead to conversation as if I was looking for something from her. That’s not the case.” fortunately my track record backed that up.
Her ring is still on her finger and later on that night she was on the phone with one of her bridesmaids making dress plans…
Although this isn’t 100% over I’d say I’m past the hardest part…
Thanks again for the support guys
I posted this in February shortly after I proposedhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ooVmJ01D3jo