posters with lower totals are agreeing with the op's observation, while high volume posters and mods are saying the opposite.
i say the truth lies somewhere in between (call me capt. obvious).
dont chastise the op or tell him he is wrong, etc. instead provide words of encouragement and make him feel more involved, rather than pushing him away.
Actually a lot of people have given their views, most of which don't fall into your dichotomy. Some said it isn't true, some said its true get used to it, others gave explanations as to why it happens, etc...
I don't think people are pushing him away either, we're having a conversation with him. Though when he draws conclusions that are incorrect (about who posts, how much people post and how active the community is) I've disagreed and pointed out the errors.
I don't see whats wrong with disagreeing with someone.