I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 and half months. We're almost on 7. She's 19, and I'm 21. We’re co-workers, and don’t work the same shifts. We got very close, and she said before, "you're the only person in my life except for my older sister that cares about me." Now the thing is, her mother kicked her out, so I told her, "just stay with me then." I know moving in was a mistake, but I did it solely, because she needed a place to stay.
She wants to love me, but not have to. She wants to explore other options and date other people. She says shes 19 and she wants to see what's out there. She never got to go out and date, or talk to other guys, cause her older sister kept her locked in her room to study. I told her we can always be friends, but I can't be her best friend, or we can't ever be the same. She says she feels guilty cause she flirts a lot, and she says she doesn’t deserve me. That I deserve better, and she doesn't understand how I can be with someone like her.
I talked to my friend who said, "honestly I've seen the way she talks and is around you. She is in love with you. I think she just has cold feet. I mean put it this way, you guys are getting somewhat serious, and she's worried that it may be moving too fast for her."
Now she says she'll move out, give me the months rent, and wants to still be best friends. But how I can be best friends with someone who is just going to look for another boyfriend, and sleep with them? I can only be a friend, and a casual one at that. What happened man? Everything was going so well, we had this discussion a week ago, and she said never mind, I want to stay with you.
I really care and like this girl. And I wouldn't mind getting in a serious relationship a few months down the line. But now the thought of her being with someone else is just something I can't picture.
EDIT:
I do want her happiness. So if she can't be happy with me, then that's just how it works, ya know? I'm leaning towards she's afraid of commitment, and the fact she is flirting with other guys means she is moving on.
But that's just her personality. A lot of guys says she flirts around too much, and at times even rubs other guys with girlfriends wrong.
Honestly, I didn't read the whole thing, but it's completely irrelevant cause I read the first paragraph and it was enough to tell me what I needed to know.
What you do is one of two things:
1) If you want to be with her romantically, not as friends. Then you need to cut all contact with her, 100%. No hanging out, no returning her calls immediately (you can return them, but don't spend hours talking, make it quick in a "I want to make sure you're ok, but I'm busy and can't talk.") no giving her rides, or doing any "friend" things whatsoever.
2) If you do not care whatsoever about being with her, and legitimately care about her only as a friend. Then cast aside any thoughts of being more than friends, and in that case, there's not even any need for her to move out. But know if you go this route, and keep her in your life, a friend is all you will ever be.
It's a difficult thing to do, but it has been proven time and time again, the only way out of the friend zone is by force. Cut her out of your life and make her miss you, and when she cries and whines and says "why can't we be friends", you're only response is "I have enough friends."
Good luck.