I appreciate the support of others on this thread, but it really isn't a dictatorship either. All these terms are a bit melodramatic.
Yeah, I can see that... but the truth of the matter is that forum communities should behave something akin to it. Unless something unduly unfair occurs, mod actions shouldn't be second guessed or questioned... particularly publicly. It's simply what makes these types of communities work effectively with as little drama as possible; protecting the interest of the majority of the members. And we as the members of the community should understand this.
Constructive criticism is ok, but if it were me I would delete unnecessarily negative threads about the forum the instant they show up (and pm the member for a private conversation). It simply serves no purpose to further the interests of the forums. That's why I mention that you've been too polite and respectful in my opinion, and as such shouldn't be subjected to this double guessing I've seen lately. You guys allow enough good respectful feedback as it is.
And as such, when a mod/admin decides to put his foot down it should be respected and left at that as far as I'm concerned. Really, the double guessing and questioning of the mods serve no real purpose in forum communities. It takes a toll on the staff, and more importantly, it sours the experience of the members.
Again, this doesn't mean that feedback, ideas, and discussions about how to improve the site are not welcomed... simply there's a line that shouldn't be crossed by the members. Although it has negative connotations, forum communities simply work because of the dictatorship-like structure... and considering that for the most part the staff here is fair and respectful, being a dictatorship shouldn't be looked at as a bad thing. This is no different than a business company... I doubt a president of a company would allow the amount of crap that forum staffs everywhere are subjected to.
I'll leave it at that.