Do s she have his usernam s / passwords?
What’s her argument to you?
I would frame it that you want to co-parent and keep your son safe. You won’t delete anything from social media, etc, without you two coming to an agreement. However, it’s important that you both know what your 11 year old is up to. He’s a good kid, but there are a lot of dangers out there. Maybe even show vulnerability and explaining that you’re scared of what’s out there.
I don’t think it has to be an all or nothing power struggle.
Last text from my Ex:
He has to keep his phone on him and turned on, JSD. There’s no more bothering him about his phone. It is for calls and location purposes only. You have access to everything he does online which is YouTube that you created for him. He has no online activity. He does Roblox. That’s it. That phone is under my name and I cannot disconnect my information from it so that will not happen. There is no safety concern. I pay the bill, I own the phone. That’s it. Nobody else has access to that phone. Just me and just (my son). So I can bring him to your house but he said he wants his phone on him. If not he wants to be picked up at 6:30
JSD there is no more discussion on it. Moving forward that’s it. Leave it alone.
I set up a Gmail account for my son, which as it turned out, became his YouTube channel. Unfortunately, during the argument, I was unaware that the YouTube account was linked to the Gmail account I had created.
I have tried to address the potential risks with her, however, she remains steadfast in this idea that I have ulterior motives and aim to pry into her personal affairs, which is unequivocally not the case.
Note: The statement "I pay for it" doesn't accurately reflect the situation. In reality, I provide $1800 a month in child support to her as she is currently not working.
If there is a tracking device installed on your sons phone and your ex wife does not trust you with access to it, then how in turn are you supposed to trust her with access to that very feature when your son is with you? If I were you I would seriously consider getting your son a phone under your name to use when he is with you.
The only other advice I would offer is to avoid showing a child that you don't trust them when they have not given you significant reason to do so. It is a difficult balance but I believe you must always err in favor of trust until they have given reason not to.