If you're going after hot chicks marriage has nothing to do with it so ignore that whole point right off the bat, the bubble gum lovely dove stuff doesn't exist to you, that stuff exists after the fact. The just being yourself nonsense is for the Cosby's. If you're going after 10's make yourself a 10, if you truly were one already we wouldn't be having this conversation, so that's your biggest problem right there. Getting them specifically takes everything you've got from the ground up, there's no one tactic that works on its own, this is how I do it but it's going to take a whole lot of writing.
The reason why I'm pompous enough to say all this is because I had NO skills until about just over two years ago and I am very aware of the changes in philosophy I've had to undertake to get on this level with women. Ladies like that were a dream to me for about 15 years (I'm 28) and now that I'm getting them I can see how stupid I was all this time, but in all honesty, they're not worth the effort, I used to care because I couldn't do it, now that I can I'm back to girls with substance, either way, here's what I did/do.
I went from a 275 lb jersey wearing C's freak gamer to a 225 lb career oriented well kept guy, I now surround myself with supremely positive people, people with ambitious goals and dreams, no deadbeats, no drifters, winners, and 10's, generally, are also winners. If you're not black and white about that, about who's a winner and who isn't, they will be, it's up to you to define that with your own set of criteria. And let me say up front, if you're sensitive and you think that being truthful matters you're a better person than I am, I could care less. If I laugh at the end of the day I did what's right, period.
For guys, you don't have to look like a hunk to make it happen, you have to be highly well-kept and fashionable of course, but you just have to be the baddest dude in the room, close to it anyway. Everyone now knows confidence steals every woman, but 10's have seen that all their lives, nobody hits on them that's not confident, you have to give them more. First and foremost, you get 10's all the time, she's not above you, she's your norm, believe it even if it's false. If you can't stay cool just quit now. The average fool who thinks he's as good as you will come across as someone trying too hard or inadequate, you have to play it off as real, internally we're all dorks, who doesn't love Star Wars and Transformers? She doesn't have to know that. Video games do not exist to you. You got that scar on your hand working on your grandmother's car, not peeling an orange. Being the bad guy should mean being a curt and cunning jerk to anyone that's saying something negative about you and her friends, not your friends, hers. Use dry whit, not obvious humor. Obvious humor gets you nothing, most people are too run-of-the-mill to not be obvious and that's why most people get lackluster responses. Don't cut up your boys in order to jack yourself up, jack them up and tell her and them how great they are and how you support them, but at the same time stress how you beat the crap out of one of them a few years ago for saying something negative about one of the other guy's sisters. NEVER be self deprecating, period, for any reason.
What do we all want in a woman? Cute, funny, sexy, some things in the bedroom, endearing, strong, gritty, stands up for herself, has her own friends, isn't annoying, doesn't depend on you 24/7, isn't a whiner, isn't a slob, has a job, has a will of her own, they want the same thing from us. Exemplify all of those qualities more so than anyone else she's seen in the last two weeks. When a group of girls falls in love with some guy we almost always say "are you kidding me, look at him, he's a dork, he's a loser, etc", it's because they know something about him that we can't see or know, that how you know he's got game. The only way outside people should know you're a stud is from your track record, the rest is your secret, everyone talks. Bragging will destroy you.
I don't know about you guys but I've had more hot girls in relationships with my male friends hitting on me than anyone else because I truly don't care about putting a show on in front of them and in all actuality when it comes down to being myself and one on one with them i am a very nice and trustable guy, but them realizing that takes many months, when they do things get awkward. Just being yourself is a good rule if you want to wait for many weeks but you can't be your true self in one, two, three or four nights, and to accelerate the process with you have to take those drastic measures. I've nabbed about 6 or 7 10's in my life (as in couldn't be hotter, literally) and that's how I do it, I'm not a great looking guy, I have a beer belly, I weigh 225, I just go to comedy school so I have a unique hook, I don't take crap from anyone, I come across as extremely trustable and I never insult the people I care about or the people I'm rolling with, I constantly build them up. My motto is why knock me down when you can build me up, if one of your friends thinks it's funny to poke fun at you for anything, period, in front of other people, you're rolling with losers and you probably are one yourself for tolerating it.
If a girl's that hot she's that hot because she manicures her body like a princess, and she's also usually a perfectionist. Pick out her most glaringly negative physical trait (if prudent) and compliment it like it's the best thing that she has to offer. Whisper it to her like it's something that everybody says to her all the time and make her fully believe you're telling her the truth. That's a hard one to juggle, but if she has freckles tell her how much you absolutely love freckles, odds are she doesn't like them, the rest is assumed and if you don't talk about those things she'll always be off balance in knowing what you think of her, she'll know you love what she hates about herself, that will hook her in, don't give her the rest. Common sense stuff but people screw it up more often than not.
I also feel like I'm close to mastering this, use extremely filthy metaphors, ones so filthy that there's no way you could actually be meaning what you're saying. That's my personal tactic, THAT is being a bad dude. Give her a very subtle one, she'll give you one back. Then you give her one back. Then she gives you one back. Then you requote one of hers if you can find a way to trigger it. That's when you ignore her, give her the odd look, INTENSE eye contact, but be periodic. They know and you know, if you bring it up you're a lame-o. Acknowledging the moment is the kiss of death. I wish I could quote some of the ones I've used in the past but it'd be against site rules, but you talk about foreplay, pull that off in front of 10-15 people while letting her know that you don't give a [dang] if anyone catches on while only having her catch on, wow, she'll be weak all night long. It's yours and her little secret. It's as if they're cheating on their boyfriends, which they love to do in their fantasies more than anything, that's how they feel, and that gets them hot. Now it's time to go in for the kill. And nobody can tell me otherwise, they will always outdirty you at that game, it works EVERY time if she's remotely interested, what we know about **** they know about filthy talk. They want to be as naughty as possible with you while looking as respectable as possible to everyone else but you, that's where the trust is formed. Get her heart racing and don't let up. She wants to trust her friend with secrets, she wants to trust you with letting you know she's a dirty little girl while feeling fully confident in the fact that you'll never let anyone know but her. NEVER TELL YOUR FRIENDS WHAT YOU'RE DOING WITH HER. Don't even hint at it, there's always someone watching. "Hey dude, what's up with you and X?", "We're having a good conversation", reveal no more. If your friend looks her while he's asking you, he's bush league, don't let it happen twice.
And I hate to say this because using this word is not the most manly thing to do, but seriously man, think you're sexy. If you're not, who cares, think it and know it. Don't portray it but believe it. 10's think that, male or female. She looks great because that's how she thinks she looks/feels compared to the other girls in the room, if you don't think that about yourself about your side of the population you are everybody else, you're the other 99% of the male population.
To answer your question, it sounds to me like you're lacking the skills to make a run at these girls if you're asking that question. Maybe you're not, all I know is what works for me, but before I kicked it up a notch the first thing my Hitch-like buddy got me to do was read this book (
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Game:_Penetrating_the_Secret_Society_of_Pickup_Artists), afterwards, observe your friends who have success at this as much as possible, swallow your pride and follow a dude like him, that's what I did. Read, learn, observe, apply. Any girl I get to talk to for more than 10 minutes, generally, I feel I have about a 30-40% chance of getting her if I apply myself, period, and it's only because of my friend's tutelage and me being secure enough to admit up front he was on a higher plain them me. I look at it like boxing, you have to train and you have to be humble around the greats and learn. Never get jealous, there's too much to gain. Just do it internally, analyze. The jock garbage, the college rules, the spoil/ignore, nice guy/bad guy stuff is hogwash, those are all attributes, gimmicks are for amateurs. I'm not cut and 6'3" with amazing hair and a Mercedes, some dudes are blessed, most of us are not, it's all skill.
Wrong or right by other people's opinions these things work for me, but generally, it's much too much work and girls like that are much too much like a sport, once again, like Swingers. But in the end I want cute sweeties, I just made a point of being capable of this because it ticked me off to see other people doing it, why not me?
Money and surrounding yourself with the right people doesn't hurt either, but that's pretty obvious.
Once you get her, be yourself as fast as possible, try to move on before you fall for her, girls that hot are dangerous, treat them as such. Let the cat out of the bag as early as possible and if she sticks around she's a true keeper, if she's put off by it who cares, move on? You did it once, you can do it again, and it gets easier each time, confidence snowballs. I know people in here are saying you have bad priorities etc. for making looks be the almighty important thing but if that's what you want go get it, when you want to settle settle, when you want to be nice be nice, when you want to be mature be mature. Do whatever the hell you want, you only live once. That's my advice.
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