Last year it occurred to me that I always looked for perfection in a New Years resolution...after a few failures I gave up. So I decided to make it a year long goal, and not pass judgement on myself (another hard one to break), and that worked much better for me. I did fail a couple times, but the rewards of success were that much sweeter.
A long time ago, in a particularly hard time in my life, someone gave me a sketch of a bird with a frog in its mouth, and the frog had its "hands" around the birds neck, captioned "Don't give up....don't ever give up!" For some reason, that meant a lot to me then. Now I am trying to bring that philosophy back into my life.